My father wasn’t there and my stepfather was abusive. Although that
could have really broken me down and hurt me, it’s something I learned
to look in a different view. Because of what I saw with the men in my
life, I now am the young man that I am today.
My real father got my mom pregnant when she was 15; he was a 22 year
old Senior in high school. He failed senior year twice. I barely saw
him and when I did, he thought buying material things would make up for
the love and time he didn’t give me. You see my step father married to
my mom was a drug dealing wife beater. I saw this and I made a promise
to myself that I didn’t want to hurt women or end up young with a child.
You would think growing up seeing all of this I would have followed
through with that promise, however, I grew up doing the exact same
thing I saw men in my life doing, hurting girls, breaking hearts (being
so young and thinking I knew too much) and almost having sex twice.
A few years later we had sex education in sixth grade and they did an
activity in class that showed us how easy it was to contract a sexually
transmitted disease. There was only one person that represented the
person with an STD. By the time we were done with the activity, seeing
all the people who were affected by that one person was a turning point
in my decision to remain abstinent. One of the biggest decisions I’ve
made is to remain abstinent until marriage. This decision was based on
mental, physical and spiritual reasons.
I made a choice in 7th grade that I will save sex for marriage. I
realized that I don’t want to repeat the same mistakes in my family and
I know there’s a better way…